When you’re a strong woman that is sometimes mistaken…
If you set boundaries to protect yourself you are cold or mean or heartless they say…
Truth- if you set boundaries it’s so you are not used, walked all over and treated like an atm machine because others know they can have their way with you, which leaves you feeling shitty. Setting boundaries helps you stay at a higher vibe so you can do better and be better for these same people.
If you say what you mean and mean what you say you are Loud, Outspoken, arrogant and selfish…
Truth- if you always lead with TRUTH and INTEGRITY your message, words and honesty will move the people who need to hear it most… aka IMPACT
If you say NO you are being a selfish jerk! You should be more helpful and do more things when asked. It’s called generosity…
TRUTH- saying NO to things that you REALLY don’t want to do serves you soooooo much better, and keeps you happier instead of drained by forcing yourself into situations that make you feel exhausted and drained
When you speak up and make waves it’s just for attention, just stay in your lane, keep your head down….
TRUTH- those who want to dim your light have insecurities about themself. It makes THEM uncomfortable because they don’t have the guts to say or do what they really think and lead their version of “stepford” because thats what women are supposed to do.
The truth is, it’s ok to repel some people – the people who don’t want to hear your message and leave are just making space for those who NEED and WANT to hear it, the people who you ARE helping with your truth.
Will this post offend some people- probably!
Will I still share it? HELL YES! And I wont even check to see who has left.
We all communicate- but not all of us make connections. Making true and lasting connections has a lot of facets and can’t be forced.
This is how I lead my life – I match efforts. If someone doesn’t talk to me, return my messages or calls or only calls when they need a favor – I don’t keep pushing it.
Same in business, with customers and clients we can only match their efforts. You can’t force a client to implement something even when you know it is a game changer. That’s why I’m business I only work with Goal GETTERS not just Goal setters.
Who has a boundary they’ve needed to set or something they’ve really been needing to say but haven’t because of what is feared others will think??